Having an Attitude of Gratitude is necessary if one wants to be the next Carrie Brawshaw (smile). I had a friend who complimented me on one of my articles, and I told her, “Oh, it wasn’t my best work”. Well, when you compare my work to the likes of Hemmingway, or Collins (may she rest in peace), it wasn’t, but the beauty of writing is the more one does is, the better one gets. Why I earth would I write off the ones who compliment me? We remember the criticisms don’t we? Realizing I had done this, I had to ask myself, “Why do we deny ourselves praise”?
It’s a false sense of humility that won’t allow us to accept compliments. In reality, we’re doing nothing more than denying “our” God His Due. If you’ve ever sacrificed ANYTHING for your craft, you deserve the praise when offered. You deserve it, because you’ve EARNED IT. It becomes obnoxious when you do it ONLY for the purposes of receiving praise. If you’re proud of what you’ve accomplished, it’s acceptable to receive the compliment, then send it back out…in your creation. By accepting the Affirmation offered, you’re acknowledging the worthiness of the person giving the compliment. Remember, by denying them their say in your work, you are denying them, and frankly, success is achieved one person, one notice, at at time. It doesn’t make you less humble to accept a “job well done” it makes you grateful…and remember….to be grateful is to be humble. Okay, gotta go. I slept in a recliner all night. Pediatric Asthma has reared it’s ugly head, but I’m glad and grateful to do it. Duchess slept like a baby….it was worth it. I got some kinks to work out. Be Blessed. Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE and MERCY to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Wednesday.
Someone posted a video of a man saying goodbye to his wife on social media. Some things really are private. As I watched the video I felt guilty for the invasion of privacy, but I couldn’t turn my eyes away from it because the sheer rawness of emotions was overwhelming. As she lie dying in her hospital bed she reached up and touched his cheek then told him, “I love you. I love you”. As the phone fades away we can only assume that she passed. I’ve seen death both ways. I’ve seen the long illnesses come to a blessed end, and I’ve seen death make a swift appearance. Doesn’t matter, both ways are painful. Death is not our friend. As the tear rolled down my cheek I said a prayer for the man I’ve never met because he’s going to have to get up in the morning and realize that the woman he loved for 60 years is no longer there. It makes me think of Merrill and Sigh.
They say if you send your love out into the world it will never return void. Doesn’t mean that bad things aren’t going to happen, doesn’t mean that we’re going to be protected from life, it just means that our love and compassion is going to fill someone who needs it. The Blessing is that the Golden Rule is going to apply as someone is going to show love and compassion for us. My Mercy Rule is if the Merciful are Blessed then I’m gathering up as many points as I can get. I also believe that if we send our prayers out into the world, a prayer is going to find it’s way back to us. As I watched this painful private moment on social media I said a prayer for this man. The irony is that my gift is not in prayer, but in mercy. I’ve been known to scan the lost and found pages and pray for pet owners….LOL….I’ve prayed for contestants on game shows….I’m a compassionate person, it IS my gift…as a Introvert Sensor, I guess my prayer counts too, and if Prayer is an Act of Mercy, and Mercy is Grace, then maybe I’ll be Blessed one day too……. When we send out our love, whether it be prayers, thoughts, compassion, mercy…it will be put to use, and it will come back; which is great, because I need it. Some things are private, but I suppose it gave me an opportuity to pray for this man, who has my heart today…..life sucks…..but it’s oh so beautiful too…I think the blessing is that we get to chose which one…it is. Be Blessed. Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show Grace and Mercy to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Tuesday.
When the jailer awoke and saw the prison doors opened, he drew his sword and was about to kill himself, supposing that the prisoners had escaped. But Paul cried out with a loud voice, saying, “Do not harm yourself, for we are all here!” And he called for lights and rushed in, and trembling with fear he fell down before Paul and Silas,…(Acts 16:27-29). At the darkest hour of the day, there was a great earthquake, and the chains that bound the men of God (and every other criminal in the prison) opened up and fell. It was this scene that the Jailer, a man who easily had the most thankless job of the culture, encountered as he awakened, and then attempted to commit suicide.
We too go through the quakes, and isn’t it ironic that the tremors come upon us, in our darkest hour as well? The jailor was terrified because not only did he lose control of the jail, but the consequences from the Roman Government was going to be swift and severe…He’d RATHER DIE…..Paul understood his FEAR, but instead of walking out; which was his right, he stayed, and honored God. When we hear, then follow, the small still voice in the dark, we too can be comforted, knowing that like Paul with his Jailor, God too…is here with us. We can panic, or we can wait, either way, Fear is not from the Lord. It’s how we react to our “DARK”, that determines the effects of the His Light. Paul could have left….He didn’t…..”Do not harm yourself, He is here”…..May your Dawn rise soon. Be Blessed. Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE AND MERCY to all those who cross your path today.
I’d be remiss if I didn’t share with you some things that are none of your business. For example, I’ve been negligent in my duties with Merrill lately. He’s been gone all week, and we’ve had to tag team the babies when he’s home. The secret to a well-oiled relationship isn’t how many times one can say, “I Love you” but in actually taking the time to say, “I love you”. Spouses know when the other isn’t being sincere. I get it, it’s hard to stay connected with children trying to destroy you, but there are ways to stay connected, in a maritime war zone:
Walk up to your spouse and plant a quick peck on his ear. Doing this, you’ll fly below the Toddler radar, and you’ll be able to gaze into his eyes, but hurry. Lest he think you’re thinking something YOU’RE NOT!
Do the dishes with him, if you’re not cleaning spaghetti from the cracks of the ceiling. You can graze his hand in the dirty sink water. Grant you, it’s isn’t the Notebook, but the tender moment may get you through the next two hours. Don’t dally. Lest he think you’re thinking something YOU’RE NOT.
While he’s sitting at the table helping The Boy with homework, walk up behind him and place a kiss on the back of his neck. The Toddler is watching for Dora for the next 3 minutes, and it shows him you’re thinking and appreciative of his help with the nightly Common Core. The trick is to not linger your lips on his nape longer than a peck, lest he think you’re thinking something YOU’RE NOT.
At bath-time, sit with him, and ask him about his day. Granted, there’s some chaos with the Toddler jumping off the side of the tub (JUMP!!!), or playing Splashing Safari, but he’ll be grateful for the attention you’re able to show him. Do NOT touch him! Just talk…lest he think you’re thinking something YOU’RE NOT.
As he’s folding the laundry. Help him, if you’re not chasing a naked, wet Toddler around the living room. He will appreciate the division of the chores, and you’ll be able to tell him about your day. Do not dally over the intimate articles of clothing….lest he think you’re thinking something YOU’RE NOT.
Finally, when the Toddler has worn herself out, The Boy has completed the Constitutional sized Math Packet, and all the water in the house has been drank, “I need a drink of water”, you can sit, on the couch across from him and just look at him, grateful for the partner, and survival of another day….but be quiet. The Toddler and The Boy both have super secret, sonar hearing, AND unfortunate timing…..one wrong move…and you’re back to a quick peck on the cheek.
War is HELL….Kids do not play fair, but your relationship comes first. Work on that, and you’ll live to see another day together. Gotta go…Merrill’s up, and he’s thinking I’m thinking something I’m NOT….I’d better run. Be Blessed. Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE and MERCY to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Saturday.
While taking Princess home yesterday, we discussed a Modern Day Aesop’s Tale. It’s the story of a mouse, which found herself caught in an urn of milk. With the immediate risk of death at hand, the mouse has two choices. She can give up her fight and drown, or…
It’s maddening to look around and see so many people have so many things handed to them, but do they really? A closer look reveals the stress lines, the knitted brow, and the permanent frown. The one thing our parents didn’t teach us, and I really was remiss in this myself, is that this journey becomes much harder, the closer we get to victory. I don’t agree with a new method of detox for drug abusers. They put the patient in a coma, then allow the process to take effect, while asleep. There’s no pain in that! The late night studies, the colicky babies, the living paycheck to paycheck, the job search, weight loss…all of it……becomes rockier, bumpier, more twisted and TURNEY, the closer we are to our success. You really didn’t think that success was going to be handed to you did you? There’s no fun, or reward in a victory we didn’t earn. Princess, is in the hour before dawn, when it’s the darkest. She’s going to be okay because she’s MINE….and because life taught her, what I could not. The pitfalls are nothing more than a façade. The irony is that she is NOT one step closer to failure, but on step closer to WINNING. I can advise her, but the path is hers alone. She’s smart….she’ll get it. So how does the mouse get out of the milk? She paddles…and paddles….and paddles…until it becomes butter….then she walks out like a BOSS. You too can struggle, and walk out like a BOSS…..if you just see through the illusion. You are closer to victory than you think….oh, and I’m right here….at the rim…waiting. Be Blessed. Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE and MERCY to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Wednesday.
The issue with going to bed early, is one will awaken early. Yep, Duchess and I went to lie down at 9:30pm, my body clock was up at 3:30..SIGH. While I was in bed, making deals with myself, (Okay, if I’m still up at 4am I’ll get up, if I’m still up at 4:30am I’ll get….5am…FINE…I’m up! ARRRGH), I allowed my mind to wander. I thought back to yesterday, and how Duchess ran into her sister’s arms, and said, “Sissy, I got you a resent” (Pronounced PRESENT) and ran off. Merrill said, “Wait for it”….when Duchess came back, she had an old Cabbage Patch Doll from the 80’s and handed to her sister as if it were her most prized possession….we could learn a lot from the generosity of a toddler.
Jesus tells us the story of the Widow who upon arriving at the Temple, gave her last two “Mites”; which in that society was the least valuable of the coins (it would be a penny to our dollar). God had a special heart for the Widows, because without a man to guard them, they were at the mercy of society. Jesus noted that the rich men arriving to the temple, were giving a portion of their wealth (silver), while the Widow was giving all she had, but she was doing so…CHEERFULLY. Jesus rightfully noted, that in her giving, she had given MORE than the silver pieces. Duchesses gift, while a “regift” came sincerely from her heart with JOY. God wants our JOY more than our possessions, and when we give back to society what has been given to us, we serve with JOY; which in turn becomes a BLESSING. My toddler doesn’t understand the concept of Joy…she just gives from the heart. Ignorance may be bliss after all because AGENDAS skew the INTENT. I may not have the silver of the wealthy, but I can have the Joy of the Widow, and THAT my friends is far more valuable to God.….Hmmm, wonder if I can pay my electric bill today with a smile? It’s worth a try. Be Blessed. Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE and MERCY to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Monday.
I had a conversation with Sweetness this morning, because he was worried that his baby sister was receiving something “more” than he was. The following is a transcript of our conversation: Me-You know Bubby, as I was driving back from Missouri yesterday, I was passing a rather interesting little car with a logo on the side door. I looked over to get a better look at the car, and veered off the left side shoulder. I had to quickly steer back onto the Interstate, so I wouldn’t wreck. Do you know what I’m trying to say to you Bubby ?….silence…..Sweetness- Yes, you’re a bad driver…..SIGH. I Love Him,