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It’s A Glorious Day

And I AM
And I AM

“Tell me what my wedding ring and baptism have in common, and you can be Baptized.” Ronnie posing a riddle to Sweetness several years ago.

3 Years Later

“Your ring tells the world you belong to Daddy. Baptism tells the world I belong to God” Sweetness solving said riddle.


For my friends not of the Faith, understand that you can still celebrate this day with me, without having to swear allegiance to God. I have many, many wonderful friends not of the Faith and the general thought is in order to be happy for me, one has to be Christian. They do not, for even the Bible talks about those outside the faith, celebrating with those whom were  defined as the Children of God….It’s a Glorious Day, and not at all about ME….

In the Christian Faith, the sacrament of Baptism, is simply an outward sign of an inward commitment. Like my wedding band, I would still be married to Merrill if I didn’t have have one, or have it on. The band doesn’t make me married, it simply shows the world that I am Merrill’s wife and devoted completely to him. It does not mean I am a good wife, a nice wife, a wife without flaws…dig me? It simply means that if I were in public you would know I was taken. Baptism is no different. Being a Christian does not mean we are good children, nice children, nor children without flaws…it means we, like my ring, are showing the world that we belong to God. We are His Children….The sacrament does not save, it does not make us better……

This is a big deal in The Community. Not because we are some kind of exclusive club in which recruiting is frowned upon…no, we want all of you to be a part of our family…the problem is that just because of whom our Father is, many think we should be that way….no sir…I mean, we try really, really hard to be like Him….but because of our sinful nature, and the nature of the World, we are constantly struggling….As flesh and blood, like you, we struggle against many of the same temptations offered you. Some, are better at fighting off certain influences than others. For example, when I am weak, tired and stressed out, my language is a little blue….whereas I KNOW other Christians whom wouldn’t cuss for all the tea in China, but will judge a fellow sister in a second….see we all have our flaws because we are human. We are human beings living in a fallen world….just like you. We have the same hopes, fears, trials and tribulations….but together…we have prayer….maybe that’s what we have to offer you…prayer…..because being a cynic I can tell you it does work. We have prayer….Hmmmm…..another day perhaps. So, being a Christian doesn’t make us perfect, it makes us adopted….my son….will be brought into The Faith with great fanfare….he belongs to God now….but I’m going to stick around…ya know…cause I love him. He is my Son with whom I am well pleased. You don’t have to be a Christian to be happy for me….It’s a Glorious Day Friends….let us rejoice…and be glad in it. Be Blessed.

Remember you set The Tone, you ARE the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE and MERCY to all those whom cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Sunday…

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I Gave Away My Baby

Not Our Place To Judge
Thou Shall Not Judge

I was late, so I didn’t notice the woman staring at me from her booth. Merrill had been patiently waiting for me so he could order… he was hungry and he’s an ass…when he’s hungry. “Do you remember me?” she asked as she approached me in my line. I struggled. I mean, something was familiar, but I couldn’t place it. “I’m the homeless woman you helped last Winter”. WOW. The woman I left at the gas station with the admonishment, “You have some decisions to make” was not the same woman who stood before me, and at that moment, I realized she was happy…content…at Peace. Hmm, maybe she had finally slayed the demons…that haunted her dreams. I Gave Away My Baby……sometimes we DO get a 2nd Chance to make a 1st Impression.

Aww, MAN, I DO remember that day like it was yesterday. For 3 days, she had been living in the back seat of her car, in the Wal-Mart parking lot. It was the dead of Winter, she was out of money and gas. My penance for eavesdropping led me to a conversation with her…and an hour later, we were at the gas station filling up her tank. Because all feel good stories have to have a memory montage, she confided that she had a daughter she had given up for adoption and it was that regret…that kept her going through the domestic abuse, the drugs, and alcohol, the career as a dancer…She felt dirty, unwanted, unloved and ashamed…..Regret was not kind to her, but it never is kind….”Awww, don’t be ashamed” I hugged her, “Be empowered. You made the choices that got here, now make the choices to get you out, God be with you as you chase your hope”. My job in the Big Picture of her life, was done, or so I thought.

So, here she was, standing in front of me with tears in her eyes, thanking me for doing, what God mandated I do. No, no, no….not taking credit for that. See, my job was only that of an Advocate. She had made it out the dark side of Danville, to the bright side of Alabama, where her family welcomed her with open arms. The Prodigal Daughter had returned…..”Remember  I told you, I gave away my baby? My family helped me see her again”…..I like Happy Endings….I like it when the Lord shows Grace….I like to see people happy….but I also know that sometimes, we have to walk a through a little fire, to have all the bad crap burned off, and be made new. I Gave Away My Baby is a story of hope, not judgment, of redemption, not regret, Deliverance not bondage….Anyone who sees the point otherwise, doesn’t understand the Grace of the Father. Amen? Okay, gotta go. It’s gonna be a hot day…the heat from the Son will reveal the flaws in the plants…Reign…will protect them and provide them with LIFE…LOL…I’m done 🙂 When you’re tempted to regret, just remember that as long as they is breath in your body, it’s not too late. People quit, God sustains…I hope your granted the wisdom to know the difference. Be Blessed.

Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE and MERCY to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Saturday.



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The Day Before












Originally posted on 4/3/16….How little we knew then.


I can’t right now. I have a test to study for. Can’t you do anything to help me?” A frustrated Ronnie to Merrill on November 6, 2016.


The Day Before….


Early in my writing career I shared a story about a man who had collapsed in front of me at Wal-Mart. He was gone before his body even hit the floor. I watched his death with complete helplessness, because there was nothing I…even as a EMT….could do for him. Never really understood the nature of heart conditions….until I did. I’m getting ahead of myself.  He caught my attention in the can isle with his sweating and breathing, then the collapse….I know now it wasn’t my time to save him, it was his appointed time to die, but it doesn’t make it easier. I worked at a dealership where the retired Service Manager had returned for an oil change. He went to the Customer Service lounge to wait for the work, and the world, to be done, and died there 10 minutes later. On a Clinical Medic rotation, we were called to a home for a “well persons check” because his daughter had not heard from her father in several days. What we found in the upstairs bedroom explained why. The Day Before….Christ tells us to be ready, because HE will come like a thief in the night. I KNOW this….Y’all can’t hear me….

I see the sun has risen in California, and while my North facing bay window has been replaced with a back yard view of leaves and roses, I can dig it….I’ll adjust. I’ve been thinking about death a lot lately, but really, you can’t blame me…some things, (i.e. experiences) you don’t forget. Ya know, most of my Loves knew they were going to die and were thusly prepared. I wonder if the man in Wal-mart had a pre-clue…no, probably not, because I saw it on his face….He was caught off guard. There have been a few others I knew who death caught off guard, they were here, and then they weren’t….the shock of their loss is soul numbing…..they hurt the most……Some I KNEW had their passport, others I wasn’t too sure….Mortality is a funny thing, because many falsely believe that there will be a sign pointing to their personal return of Christ…..There are no signs, and there are no warnings…..Today, you need to do two things: Apologize, and get your affairs in order…..

I could walk out my house RIGHT NOW, and DIE. Then yesterday, the day I had a huge argument with Merrill, would be known as The Day Before. I’d leave him with the memory of me saying, “I’m so sick of YOUR SH*T’“. I’d leave him with two babies, three kids and the memory….the horrible, painful memory of him trying to figure out what exactly he did wrong…..My age gap is in the precious position of watching friends and loved one die, too soon. For you see, we are at the apex of Family History, Cancer, Auto Accidents, and sigh…Suicide…..Is today my Day Before? Is it yours? God, I hope not, but If so, I need to make amends with the man I call My Life…..The Day Before….make your amends everyday, that way you’ll be ready for THAT DAY….The Day Before…excuse me while I go and apologize….Where is that chocolate milk? Be Blessed.

Remember you set the Tone, you Are the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE and MERCY to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmation complete, enjoy your Sunday.



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I’m Not The One

I'm Not The One
I’m Not The On

Friends, 6:00am is too early to get into a Christian pissing match with a woman I have never met, however, I have strong feelings and opinions, and the motto for today is, “I’m Not The One”. Really, I…AM…NOT…THE…ONE. I suppose one could successfully argue that FB is not the place for Despair Statuses, yet I content, if not FB then where? Where else do we have a better chance to let the light of Christ shine…. Through our Works…!
When, “The Life of Brian” arrived in American theaters several decades ago, Monty Python, I am sure, had no idea just how prophetic and offensive it would be, or maybe they did….they WERE wise beyond their years. I guess, when you’re not Christian, you have the luxury of sitting back, and quietly observing the weaknesses in The Faith. We DO have weaknesses, but lets be clear here, the issue is with US, not HIM. Even Christ gets annoyed with our actions and inactions, and after this mornings debate, I’m pretty sure, I have some explaining do do….SMH…if  He even wants to hear it.
As Brian hung from the cross, his hours numbered, a slew of well-wishers walked by to thank him for his Sacrifice. Except he didn’t want to BE sacrificed, he was just trying to get some play. The Christ Life, is only as good as His followers. We are human, faulty, fault-filled beings and we screw up…like A LOT. Argh….what’s right here? Well in absence of a clear mandate, we default to The Love Rule; which is to cause no pain, where pain already exists. If we come across a “despair filled” status, it may be best to say nothing, because friends, (this is the part where I piss you off), quoting scripture when someone is homeless is not comforting, even to the most ardent of Followers. I think that’s where Python had it right with the crucifixion scene (egg shell walking here). We get our panties bunched up by the implication that we’re a group of disingenuous hypocrites, but saying the wrong thing at the wrong time, does come off as fake, and well intentioned or not, The Road To Hell is paved with the Scriptures of the Faithful……feel me? In other words, it’s okay to say NOTHING. Please understand how it’s going to be perceived by others..you know, the ones who are NOT followers. You may mean well, but it isn’t about YOU….its about the Hurting Brother or Sister in Christ. I contend it’s okay to offer a Blessing and pray in silent, or send a PM, which we’re told to do anyway (the prayer in private, not the PM, although I’m sure Christ knew FB was coming one day). The Life of Brian…Hmmm…..it was hilarious, now it just makes me sad, because it’s kinda true……I may never watch it again. I’m not the one…..nope…..not today. Be Blessed. Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE and MERCY to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Sunday.

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Those People


I don’t know what pisses me off the most. The fact that the prejudice was prefixed with, “Well I AM a Christian but..”, or her outright ignorance. Regardless of what the Constitution promises, we are all indeed, not created equal. I’m not even sure anymore if opportunities really are equally afforded to each man. I guess I just sauntered around life with my rose colored glasses on for so long that I honestly didn’t realize that the Great American Assurance only belonged to the very fortunate few. What I see now is hate, ignorance, hate, and the erosion of all we hold dear. Friends, one only has to overhear a conversation at a local gym to realize that we, as a compassionate people, still have a long, long way to go. SMH, we may already be doomed and not even know it.

How the HELL are you gonna talk sh*t about the homeless in a FREAKING women’s homeless shelter? That’s like going to the NAACP and using the nasty “N” word to all who walks by. “Well I AM a Christian, but those people really need to pull themselves up by their boot straps”. See, here’s the evil that creeps into society, like a yeast. We don’t even realize until its too late, or worse, GASP it’s US, that the blanket stereotypes of “Those people” have essentially violated the most basic of human rights…..the right to Dignity. It matters not that you chose to spew your hatred behind her back, instead of to her face, it only matters that you have now officially closed you mind to the possibility that God MAY HAVE put that woman in your path to bless. Hell woman, you may have very well missed out on your own blessing, and for that I can only say, “Oh well”. Maybe next time, you’ll try harder to heed the gently prodding of the Spirit instead of believing that “Those People” need to fend for themselves….or maybe…just maybe….you’ll chose not to tear her down when she’s in the most vulnerable of positions. Someone is going to help her, but you missed out….and the sad reality is that you’ll never realize how close you came to The Blessing. Well as long as Those People keep taking and taking…sigh….you’ll never get yours. (sarcasm).

Friends, we are only two mistakes away from being in a homeless shelter ourselves. Can we all honestly say, (If you say yes, you’re lying) that we got to where we are today on our own power? No….you can’t…and that’s because behind every successful person, stood a team, a village (if you will) of supporters who had your back against all costs. I can’t even say that I raised Princess alone, because I didn’t. I had my sisters, brother, family and yes, friends…then Merrill. I may have had The Sex, that created her, but I damned sure didn’t ask that the Jackwagon leave me. We have no idea what another has gone through, but to further demean them, by calling them, “Those people” shows that YOU have the bootstrapping to do, not them, and I resent you prefixing your ignorant statement with the term Christian. I’m not perfect. I do and say many things that would have those who don’t know me doubt that I am indeed a follower of Christ, but I know what it’s like to be in poverty. I know what it’s like to be judged for your thrift store, hand-me-down jeans, and I damn sure know what it’s like to give the cashier the colored bills that pass for grocery cash….and have the people in line behind you just, “tsk, tsk” while you’re trying to buy the basics. No one, no one deserves ignorant judgments. The woman at the shelter trusted you enough to confide in, and you screwed her, without the benefit of even a meal. Sounds to me like you’re the free-loader sweetheart, not her.

I’ll pray for that homeless woman, the one with three children, who was beaten so badly she was hospitalized for a week, while her children stayed with relatives. All she asked you for was advice, and you judged her a panhandler. I hope you and your little group of Christian Gossipers never have to go through what she went through, but if you do, I pray you don’t become one of “Those people”, because if you do, you too will be robbed of a home, as well as your dignity, and sometimes, Dignity is all those women leave home with.  Talking sh*t about the homeless in a homeless shelter….wow…and I thought I had heard it all….what’s next…..punching kittens in the face? Wouldn’t surprise me on bit. Be Blessed.

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Would I, Won’t I? I don’t Know.

I'm Sorry
I’m Sorry

I feel like it would be very bad form to politicize this tragedy, so I’m just going to offer my thoughts and prayers. If you feel the need to offer thoughts and prayers, feel free to join with me.  I feel a kinship to the parents of the babies lost in this senseless act of violence, because I am a parent, AND I feel a kinship to the Little Brothers and Little Sisters involved in this senseless act of violence because I attend The Kiddie Pool. I pray they find Peace and Comfort in the arms of their family and Creator. Amen. I wonder, when faced with evil, would I…..won’t I? I honestly don’t know!

At the start of every semester the Instructor takes some time to review the “Active Shooter” policy with the class. It’s scary and sad that there even needs to be an Active Shooter protocol, but we prepare ourselves as we look around and find the exits. I’ve lived enough of my life to know that we are not immortal. Bad things do happen to good people, and no amount of preparations WILL prepare us for the Boogy Man. I’ve often wondered what I would do, if/when that text message comes across my phone…will I run….will I hide…..will I stay and try to fight….I don’t know….I hope to never find out, but for ME the more important question is, would I Affirm or Deny my Christ…..when asked with a gun to my head?

I think the thing that bothers me the most, is that there are rumors of this monster lining people up and asking them if they were Christian? How would you answer? It took courage, great courage, to answer “yes” seconds before these little babies met their death. We can walk around showing people our, “Ask my about Christ” badge, but are we willing to show people our Christ, when the day of our Reckoning comes? The babies at the pool did….that’s why they died. Sitting at our desks listening to the escape route lecture, there is a small vein of fear as I ask myself, “What would I do”? Will I….won’t I…… do I……don’t I? SMH…you’d think I’d know….wouldn’t you? If I could be granted one prayer today, I’d pray for The Babies who lived and died victims of this monster’s madness. Courage isn’t always saving a life, sometimes it is as simple as making the choice to accept or deny our faith.  I pray I never have to find that out. Be Blessed. Remember you set the Tone, you ARE the Example. BE KIND to each other. Show GRACE and MERCY to all those who cross your path today. With your Daily Affirmations complete, enjoy your Thursday.

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